By Nathalie Zulu M.
Woman, an adult female human being as defined by most dictionaries.
Being a woman comes with attributes, a sense of duty, qualities and virtues; many have defined a woman by her qualities: Virtuous, loving and caring, helper, devoted, persevering, courageous, seductive, inventive, curious, kind, and the list goes on and on.
I always said, women have been created with special gifts. We have the ability to adapt to different situations and remain calm in the face of adversity.
Naturally able to think, act and bring innovation. We see what others don’t see. We look for opportunity, seize them, bring up ideas and inspire others to do the same.
When dealing with life issues, family, kids, business, job or ministry, we become strategic, no distraction is allowed. We keep our focus on what we are doing until we reach the result expected.
A woman doesn’t boast her ego; she humbles herself and is opened to learn from others.
“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman” Simone de Beauvoir
As a little girl
I remember that age, where in everything I wanted to be like my mom. I liked so many things about her; her shoes, her dresses, the hairstyle, her perfume and I still remember her nail polish “Rouge Bordeaux”
At this age, we are too fan of our mothers, sometimes of our big sisters too. We want to be and do like them.
We learn how to be a mothers by playing with our baby dolls; we try on mommy’s shoes, dresses, then wear her make up.
With our cooking and serving set toys, we learn to serve daddy his best dish, and appreciate the compliments we received from him.
It‘s a special age, and mom need to be more available at this stage, but also dad has he will shape his daughter character with respect to men.
As a young woman
I call it the “decision making time”. This is the period where we form our personality; we grow deep in the path traced by our parents, society, school, church.
At this period, our friendship circle changes. We become more alert of circumstances and learn to react accordingly.
It‘s a tough time for parents as some have completely lost their children for lake of attention and not knowing how to handle this active age.
I think I wasn’t a bad girl. I was more timid and introvert; and one thing I still laugh at is that I was afraid of boys although I had good friends but every time one approaches me with a certain behavior, I reacted in a violent way. I think I needed to protect myself.
I had my first crush in secondary school, I was 14. So afraid, knowing all the stories about early pregnancies, abortions, broken hearts…
I remember had prayed and asked God that I wish to have my first love when I reach 18. Guess what? That’s what happened! I was somebody’s girlfriend at 19.
I told my daughter that story over and over again, she always laughs but I know and pray she will follow the right path.
As a wife
Proverbs 18 vs 22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord”
A well deserve definition is found in the bible in the book of proverbs 31:10-31
I am yet to be a wife, but with the little I have seen from my mother and around me, I believe a wife is a helper, a counselor, a great attribute for her husband. She is the overseer of the household, and a man’s ego, respect and value have a direct connection to their wives attitude.
As a mother
Natural leader, she knows how to handle chaotic situations at home. She becomes a teacher, a supervisor, a judge, a helper and a friend.
She knows her children flaws and works on it with patience and love.
Being a mother is a gift, from the day you realized the pregnancy to the birth, it is all a miracle.
From the first steps to the first words, we count it all for a joyful and unforgettable moment.
From the first day at school to graduation, it only begins to take our emotions high.
And from their wedding day to the first grandchild, you just fall on your knees and praise God, for you have seen it all and made out of you men and women.
I remember the day my daughter was born, the feeling of knowing that “I am now a mother” was so deep, I looked at that precious girl and couldn’t believe that she came from me. I cried, cried so much.
I saw in her myself, the love I have for her father, my mother and all her sacrifices, the love she showed me, I saw the fruit of prayers and desire. I couldn’t stop the tears, I found out that day, what is life and the story just started with me.
A woman is like a flower, she needs attention, care and constant love. It could be from her husband, her children, friends or family.
She may be the weak sex, as many believe, but she is stronger than you think. She carries the burdens of bearing children, educate, support and help at any time. She often gets the blame when things go wrong with her household.
She may not be the answer to everything but she has solution for every situations.
Be proud of your mother; be proud of yourself and all the women who are exceptional.
Happy woman’s month to all the beauties like me.