Tell me mother


One morning, like every weekdays, I woke up to my routine.

The kids have bathed and dressed.
In the kitchen I prepared their snacks and the breakfast is served.

One last touch, checking bags, clean faces and then the morning prayer before leaving for school.

All was natural until came my son with this sudden and unsuspected question:

Tell me mommy, were you and daddy married before?”

I, for seconds asked myself why this now? He is just a small boy!
Then with a smile and holding is hands; I said “No baby, daddy and I were not married.”

He added with this mysterious tone;

So why do we call him our dad?

That is where all in me stopped. Troubled, I tried to form in my head an appropriate answer to his question.

Look baby, daddy is your father because we were together for a longtime, and we were living in the same house, that’s the time your sister and you were born; unfortunately we did not get married like you see in church and got separated later after you were born.

He looked at me with a smile; saying:

Is it like being boyfriend and girlfriend?
Were you two dating?

I had to say YES; even if deep in me I wished I could say no, but there is no other answer to it, I wasn’t married when I had my children. And I can’t see how explaining cohabitation will help in this matter.

He then, hugged me and said with his angel voice;

That is why he is our daddy.

I felt my heart so heavy, at that moment tears moved in my eyes, I hold him tight not willing to let him see me crying.

A couple of minutes, then it was time to leave, I went downstairs with them; a kiss to everyone then they left for school.

As much as I want to be strong, there are times when I will have to answer to questions that could break my heart.

I see in this that children observe and question themselves regarding their family status , and my son, that little man who is turning 7 years old, so loving and caring is becoming curious and in need of clarifications.

It hurts sometimes, but I am grateful that he understood and I want to believe that the matter doesn’t hurt him.

We sometimes hide the truth or avoid giving details to our children believing that we are protecting their heart and we try to get a balance into their emotions. But, there will come a time where they will somehow find out the truth and at that exact moment we may look bad in their eyes or they will sympathize with us.

I may not know everything and was surely not prepared to be a single mom but the need to protect my children and to provide a safe, peaceful and joyful environment is making me work extra miles to achieve a good emotional balance for my little ones.

I am forever grateful to the almighty God for the strength and ability given me to be a mother.
There is still a long way to go but, i am proud of what have been achieved so far.

Kisses and Love to all the single Parents who struggle time to time but move forwards with a positive attitude.

Being a woman


By Nathalie Zulu M.

Intro

Woman, an adult female human being as defined by most dictionaries.

Being a woman comes with attributes, a sense of duty, qualities and virtues; many have defined a woman by her qualities: Virtuous, loving and caring, helper, devoted, persevering, courageous, seductive, inventive, curious, kind, and the list goes on and on.

I always said, women have been created with special gifts. We have the ability to adapt to different situations and remain calm in the face of adversity.
Naturally able to think, act and bring innovation. We see what others don’t see. We look for opportunity, seize them, bring up ideas and inspire others to do the same.

When dealing with life issues, family, kids, business, job or ministry, we become strategic, no distraction is allowed. We keep our focus on what we are doing until we reach the result expected.

Mothers and daughters
Mothers and daughters

A woman doesn’t boast her ego; she humbles herself and is opened to learn from others.

“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman” Simone de Beauvoir

As a little girl Continue reading “Being a woman”

Have yourself a positive year


First Monday Thoughts. Continue reading “Have yourself a positive year”

A Rose for everyday

The Beauty in Me


Love, laughter, strength and joy are all in the beauty of life.

A woman’s strength is found in the love she shares with her loved ones.

The Beauty in Me - A Rose for everyday
A Rose for everyday

Life is challenging sometimes but she keeps her mind at peace most of the time.

She wakes up every morning with smile despite the struggle ahead and brings comfort to her children in the midst of a busy day.

 

A Rose for everyday

Her heart maybe broken but still, she smiles knowing that she will light up some love, laughter, strength and joy to her home.