This year I am grateful for my children


Years after years I have seen you growing.
We have been together from the time I realized your presence in my womb.
Days after days, weeks after weeks and months after months we have known each other.

From your day one in my arm, I have looked at you with love.
I cared for you and protected you
When you cried, I jumped like a super hero to the rescue
And when you smiled it was like angels dancing to the sound of joy.

Since I have you, my world has become a concoction of happiness, joy, drama, scares, worries, hopes and laughter.

During these past years, we have felt each other pain and fear
I learned to be strong because of you,
As my deepest fear was the fear of losing you.

We have been together through ups and downs and we made it till today!

And I am grateful for that!

To my God

Oh how I love you!

Faithful and merciful God
You have set your eyes on me and have never let me down.
All the way from the beginning I have seen your works
Through the bad time, you reminded me to be strong
You taught me to appreciate life with what I have
And be happy with those around me.
You made me a mother, a great and wonderful mother

For that, I am so grateful!

To my daughter

My first born, my sunshine
You have transformed my life
Each day with you is a time for me to learn more of what it is “to be a mother”.
We became best friends and no one has shown me support like you do
You have seen my painful moment

You were there when I cried out my sorrow
Even when I tried to hide it, you somehow knew it
So young but mature, I am so proud of you

And being your mother is what I am grateful for!

To my son

My love,
My water when I get on fire
You are for me a peace maker, always quiet but observant
You have such questions that challenge my motherhood
And you are not reluctant to say when something bothers you
Your kisses, hugs and compliments make my day
And I am always looking forward to receive more from you.

For your love, I am grateful!

To my adopted son

You are one of my beautiful achievements
In you I see hope, happiness, and possibilities
You made me realized that forgiving is easy
And that loving is a lifestyle
All the funny moments you have brought have added more beauty and shine to our home
Your progress has made me so proud

For you my boy, I am grateful too!

Hebrews 13 vs 5 “Don’t be obsessed with getting more material things. Be relaxed with what you have. Since God assured us, “I’ll never let you down, never walk off and leave you,” we can boldly quote, God is there, ready to help; I’m fearless no matter what. Who or what can get to me?”

Tell me mother


One morning, like every weekdays, I woke up to my routine.

The kids have bathed and dressed.
In the kitchen I prepared their snacks and the breakfast is served.

One last touch, checking bags, clean faces and then the morning prayer before leaving for school.

All was natural until came my son with this sudden and unsuspected question:

Tell me mommy, were you and daddy married before?”

I, for seconds asked myself why this now? He is just a small boy!
Then with a smile and holding is hands; I said “No baby, daddy and I were not married.”

He added with this mysterious tone;

So why do we call him our dad?

That is where all in me stopped. Troubled, I tried to form in my head an appropriate answer to his question.

Look baby, daddy is your father because we were together for a longtime, and we were living in the same house, that’s the time your sister and you were born; unfortunately we did not get married like you see in church and got separated later after you were born.

He looked at me with a smile; saying:

Is it like being boyfriend and girlfriend?
Were you two dating?

I had to say YES; even if deep in me I wished I could say no, but there is no other answer to it, I wasn’t married when I had my children. And I can’t see how explaining cohabitation will help in this matter.

He then, hugged me and said with his angel voice;

That is why he is our daddy.

I felt my heart so heavy, at that moment tears moved in my eyes, I hold him tight not willing to let him see me crying.

A couple of minutes, then it was time to leave, I went downstairs with them; a kiss to everyone then they left for school.

As much as I want to be strong, there are times when I will have to answer to questions that could break my heart.

I see in this that children observe and question themselves regarding their family status , and my son, that little man who is turning 7 years old, so loving and caring is becoming curious and in need of clarifications.

It hurts sometimes, but I am grateful that he understood and I want to believe that the matter doesn’t hurt him.

We sometimes hide the truth or avoid giving details to our children believing that we are protecting their heart and we try to get a balance into their emotions. But, there will come a time where they will somehow find out the truth and at that exact moment we may look bad in their eyes or they will sympathize with us.

I may not know everything and was surely not prepared to be a single mom but the need to protect my children and to provide a safe, peaceful and joyful environment is making me work extra miles to achieve a good emotional balance for my little ones.

I am forever grateful to the almighty God for the strength and ability given me to be a mother.
There is still a long way to go but, i am proud of what have been achieved so far.

Kisses and Love to all the single Parents who struggle time to time but move forwards with a positive attitude.

When life puts you in a corner


Today’s topic is quite a story; I hesitated to publish it yesterday, but finally, I decided to go with it.
I read something on Marriage Today’s Facebook page, which says:

“The enemy will do anything he can to put you in the bedroom before you get married.
And he will do everything he can to keep you out of the bedroom after you are married”
~Casey Caston~

The above quote has caught my attention, as up to now I have never seen things in that way.
This made me think of a couple I know from Kinshasa. The wife’s story has inspired me so much, especially at the time I was going through similar experience.

A painful truth Continue reading “When life puts you in a corner”

Being a woman


By Nathalie Zulu M.

Intro

Woman, an adult female human being as defined by most dictionaries.

Being a woman comes with attributes, a sense of duty, qualities and virtues; many have defined a woman by her qualities: Virtuous, loving and caring, helper, devoted, persevering, courageous, seductive, inventive, curious, kind, and the list goes on and on.

I always said, women have been created with special gifts. We have the ability to adapt to different situations and remain calm in the face of adversity.
Naturally able to think, act and bring innovation. We see what others don’t see. We look for opportunity, seize them, bring up ideas and inspire others to do the same.

When dealing with life issues, family, kids, business, job or ministry, we become strategic, no distraction is allowed. We keep our focus on what we are doing until we reach the result expected.

Mothers and daughters
Mothers and daughters

A woman doesn’t boast her ego; she humbles herself and is opened to learn from others.

“One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman” Simone de Beauvoir

As a little girl Continue reading “Being a woman”