Serenade of Hugs


What a day! Thinking of all the hugs collected so far.

I know you may ask, is there any hugs challenge? What am I talking about?

Yes, as small or big as they come; in the morning, noon, afternoon or late at night. Just hugs!

There were times I wanted one, even the smallest but I couldn’t get it.
There were times I wanted it from a specific person, but no, I didn’t get it.
And there were times I got it unexpectedly from a friend, family, colleague, even from a stranger, I mean someone I barely know.

But here, my serenade comes from my biggest admirers, those who fill my days with drama, joy, happiness, hard work, smile, tears and prayers.
They can enlarge my lips with a smile and tighten my face with anger at the same time.
The ones who can make me laugh and cry.
They are my morning joy and my heartfelt prayer at night; my endless motivation throughout the day.
They are a mixture of complexity and simplicity in every way.

I hope you will agree with me that hugs are special gifts and can be used at any time, any day and for any mood.

My serenade of Hugs

It starts in the morning, that warm and tender hug to say hello! How was your sleep?
Then one before leaving, wishing each other a wonderful day with hope to see you later.
Another to say welcome back! How was your day?
And one more to say good night, sleep tight!

But in between comes

The “thank you hug”, for a new pair of shoes, a new set of clothes or a new pencil case to replace the one they misplaced and can’t find any more.

The “I am sorry hug”, whenever they acknowledge their mistakes and misbehaviors and are willing to do right next time.

The “I love you Hug” when feeling emotional.

The “get well soon hug” to give you hope.

The “bobo healer hug” that calms you down when you hurt yourself.

The “don’t worry hug” for every bad dreams, fears…

And the “I missed you hug”.

Hugs are great to encourage, secure, motivate, lower your temper and express feelings.
My serenade of hugs is an endless symphony. It’s a beautiful melody to start the day and so lovely to finish up the day.

Children are good example of the power of hugs; they give hugs without questions and are so expectant to receive one.
Give as much as you can, at any time, to anyone who needs it and may you receive so many hugs that you will have no room for stress, worries, pain, anxiety and insecurities.

Love and Big hug to you all.

Note: • A “bobo” is children word to express a wound, cut, scratch or pain. It is used in French language.

Sexuality, the talk


Being sexually active nowadays has become common to our younger generation. The question is, are they all prepared for it?
I read an article from LifeBlog, the author Peter Adewumi has elaborated something crucial about being sexually literate.

“The reason why many adults don’t know what they ought to know about sex is because they were not taught at the right time. The first teaching about sex should come from parents, because parents are the first teachers of the children.
Sex is very sweet inside marriage, but very bitter outside marriage. It is like a bitter leaf; when you eat it at the wrong time, very bitter! But when eaten at the right time, delicious! It is also medicinal to your body. Sex at the right time makes you healthy, while sex at the wrong time makes you sick.”

Peter Adewumi, LifeBlog.

Sexuality is a subject that many parents in Africa do not want to discuss with their children. A taboo, yet it is the most valuable information from a certain age.

We are victims of ignorance, and the delusion that the world offers through Media’s platforms have been the way of gaining knowledge on the subject for most of us.
As a mother today, I wished my parents have told me before ahead what is all about sexuality.
And as a single mom, giving your children lessons or advice regarding sexuality appears to be a heavy task.
As much as I want my children to be prepared for a greater life and happy relationship, I still have to deal with questions with regards to my personal experience.

We lead by example, that what it is said!

How to be an example when your own experience is contrary or way far to what you wish them to be?
Is admitting to your children that you made mistakes in the past wrong?
What is the approach to take when you are dealing with a child that is questioning your advice?

There are so many thoughts in my head for the time I will have to seat with my little ones and bring the subject into the discussion.
But one thing keeps me strong is that God promised in all, that “…he will never leave me nor forsake me”. Deuteronomy 31:6
I found my strength in this verse.

Wishing you and I to be great parents and role models for our children.

Note: the full article from Peter Adewumi is found here: Sexual literacy…

Enjoy!